Eliot Spitzer: Closet Crybaby?
VIEIRA: Do you think women play any role in this, Dr. Laura?
SCHLESSINGER: It’s interesting. what you said about what men need — men do need validation. When they come into the world they’re born of a woman. Getting the validation from mommy is the beginning of needing it from a woman. When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like our hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs. These days, women don’t spend a lot of time thinking about how they can give their men what they need.
I don’t need anyone to validate me. What the hell is she talking about?
If a woman started telling me I was her “hero” and nonsense like that, I’d plant hidden cameras around to see what the hell she was stealing from me when I wasn’t looking!
When you live with a woman, she’s going to hear that fart you cut, she’s going to hear that burp you let out, she’s going to hear your stomach grumble. These are biological functions that you don’t ever see “heroes” do. She’s going to see more sides of you than that stranger you’re talking to on the subway. She’ll watch you as you call someone’s child cute in public but turn around and comment privately how goddam glad you are that you had that vasectomy and didn’t wind up with a brat like that!
Don’t dump this on Spitzer’s wife. She’s his wife, for god’s sake, not his second Mommy, not a worshiper at the Church of Eliot, not a frikkin fan. She’s his wife.
If Spitzer thought something was lacking in his marriage, he should have started looking within himself first. The kind of childish neediness “Dr.” Laura describes is simply pathological and I reject her assertion that men are simply large crybabies.